Friday, August 20, 2010

eat, pray, cry cause everyone knows your wife stomped on your heart

I saw Eat, Pray, Love last weekend, and I really liked it. I liked the book better.

I have always wondered how her ex husband feels about his heart being torn out documented in a book and now on film, and apparently I'm not the only one.

Here's an article about him, and he seems to be doing just fine.

Thursday, August 19, 2010

Fashion Forward

I've been looking for something fabulous and chic to wear as a veil without looking like:

a) a beekeeper

b) an extra in the Madonna like a virgin or like a prayer music video

this girl really hit the nail on the head...

via OnceWed

Monday, August 16, 2010

To shoot or not to shoot...

I've been spending quite a lot of time lately looking for a photographer for the wedding. I have a pretty specific idea of what I'm looking for...more photojournalism and less posey posey shots (I hate those). But it's hard to find a great photographer that doesn't cost a million bucks...but then I did! And I really like them! And I'm excited now!

They usually provide a wedding album with the package but I figured we would never look at the thing so she said she would change it out for an engagement session instead, which is what I had wanted (yay). But then I talk to the boy and he'd rather have the album, saying that the engagement session pics will never be looked at again while the wedding album is something we will want to have later.

So now I don't know. Is he right? Will we never look at the engagement photos once we get married? But we have no pictures of us as a couple where we don't look like drunks or idiots, I'd like some shots of us before the wedding...

Did you do an engagement shoot? Was it worth it, or did you never look at the photos afterward?

Thursday, August 12, 2010

SLO nice to see you again

I know that I have been gone forever, to the point where I figured maybe people, the few faithful of you that is, had given up on me. I've been swamped to say the least, with all things wedding related, and it was bordering on absurd.

I had no idea that planning something like a big party, where I wear a white dress instead of a black one would be so time consuming. But it is. No wonder there are so many blogs about it.

The wedding was originally planned for Carmel, CA where I am from, I went up there for 5 days, spent the entire time looking at venues, talking to caterers, emailing photographers and arguing with my parents about money. It was exhausting to say the least. It's no secret that the Monterey Peninsula is so damn expensive but I had no idea just how overpriced everything was until I was given a pretty strict budget in a town where the word budget is not in the vocabulary.

I picked a venue (a modern art museum) then came back to LA and spent a lot of time worrying, then crying, then getting mad and frustrated, then fighting with my parents over stupid things that shouldn't have even been an issue. It got stupid really quick, and I started looking at things like a $10,000 catering proposal and a $5,000 photography offer as "No big deal!!"

I realized that I was losing perspective pretty quickly and I needed to come back down to earth. So I started thinking outside of the box, looking around, my scope moving further up and further down the coast. I started to realize how unrealistic it would be to get married where I had wanted to, so I went to San Luis Obispo, where the boy's parents and my sister live, and did the same thing I had done in Monterey all over again. I looked for venues, spent 3 days talking to caterers, photographers and churches and it turns out getting married for a reasonable amount is do-able just sometimes you have to think outside the box.

I'm a little sad that I'm not getting married in my hometown, it's where I dreamed that I would marry someday, and it's where my memories are, I hold a lot of love for that place, I had been saying "it's where my heart is," but I have realized that my heart is wherever my family, friends and everyone I love and hold dear is, and it doesn't matter where that is exactly, as long as they're all there with me on that day.

Friday, July 30, 2010

fancy wedded bliss

Gawker has released photos of where Chelsea Clinton will getting married tomorrow in Rhinebeck, New York. It was built by the John Jacob Astor IV to resemble Versailles, and was rumored to be taken off the market recently to be able to be used as the wedding venue for the Clintons.

Granted it's a really fancy house but I like that she's using a house nonetheless and not some schmancy country club nearby or somewhere in Manhattan like everyone else.

Since presidents and their families are the closest we'll every get to royalty it'll be interesting to see pictures of this multi million dollar wedding when all is said and done.

Have a great weekend.

Thursday, July 29, 2010

I think we're moving backwards here, but I've lost track

Has anyone seen or heard about this? The California marriage protection act is a measure that John Marcott is trying to put on the November ballot trying to ban divorce in California.

I think his point is to make a statement that in regards to Prop 8, the proposition that passed in California banning gay marriage, that if we find marriage such a sacred act, that we should ban divorce considering that (according to Mr. Marcott) the 50% of marriages that fail in the country is making a mockery of marriage.

Agreed that the divorce rate is sort of sad Mr. Marcott but instead of making such an extreme political statement under the guise of satire, maybe we should be educating young men and women about the responsibilities of marriage, and make marriage more about succeeding in a relationship and finding a partner you can spend your life with and less about the wedding and all the fun and pretty things? Maybe we should embrace the responsibilities educating those ready to marry 20 somethings and remind people more often about what they are taking on before they unknowingly jump into something they may regret later?

In this country the wedding is the supposed pinnacle of a relationship, so how can you expect a marriage to succeed if according to the wedding industry and the fairy tale stories it's the best day of your life? That might suggest it's all downhill from there, meaning it's no surprise that a lot of marriages end in divorce.

I get what you're going for here, and while some may snicker, and some may choke at your arguments and your desire to get this measure on the ballot, I just want to tell you I'm sad that instead of focusing on the real problem here, of not encouraging men and women to make real responsible choices in their relationships and their personal lives (married, single, gay, straight) you're just pissing a lot of people off and graying the issue further.

Your thoughts? Do you get what he's saying and find it funny? Or are you kind of wanting to can probably guess where I lie on the issue.

Tuesday, July 27, 2010

I die

Like Literally...

Is anyone else excited about The Rachel Zoe project starting again?

I wish i had her job, or maybe just her closet. And I have a little crush on Brad <3 Love him.

The show starts August 2nd, 10 pm Bravo.

Get excited. I know I am.